Thursday, May 28, 2009

Combining Emotional Health & Contemplative Spirituality


Peter Scazzero in his book Emotional Healthy Spirituality suggests that emotional health and spirituality must be integrated. He says that it is impossible to be spiritually mature while being emotionally imature. I agree more than ever. I'm wondering why the two ever got a divorce...

It is possible to have been an active, intentional follower of Christ for many years and still be emotionally unhealthy. The Church has done an excellent job at discipling our minds - but not so good at discipling people's emotions.

Scazzero suggests a type of discipleship that includes growth in emotional health and contemplative spirituality. I find his description of emotional health and contemplative spirituality to be an inspiring vision for my faith journey and my understanding of discipleship.

Emotional Health
Is concerned with such things as: naming, recognizing, and managing our own feelings; identifying with and having active compassion for others;
 initiating and maintaining close and meaningful relationships;
 breaking free from self-destructive patterns;
 being aware of how our past impacts our present;
 developing the capacity to express our thoughts and feelings clearly, both verbally and non-verbally;
 respecting and loving others without having to change them;
 asking for what we need, want, or prefer clearly, directly, and respectfully;
 accurately self-assessing our strengths, limits, and weaknesses and freely sharing them with others;
 learning the capacity to resolve conflict maturely and negotiate solutions that consider the perspectives of others;
 distinguishing and appropriately expressing our sexuality and sensuality; and
 grieving our losses well.

Contemplative spirituality
Focuses on classic practices and concerns such as;
 awakening and surrendering to God's love in any and every situation;
 positioning ourselves to hear God and remember his presence in all do;
 communing with God, allowing him to fully indwell the depth of our being;
 practicing silence, solitude, and a life of moving toward unceasing interactive prayer;
 resting attentively in the presences of God;
 understanding our earthly life as a journey of transformation toward ever-increasing union with God;
 finding the true essence of who we are in God;
 loving others out of a life of love for God;
 developing a balanced, harmonious rhythm of life that enables us to be aware of the sacred in all of life;
 adapting historic practices of spirituality that are applicable today;
 allowing our Christian lives to be shaped by the rhythms of the Christian calendar more than the culture; and 
living in the context of a committed community that passionately loves Jesus above all else (EHS, p.45-46).

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Becoming Spiritual Mother’s and Fathers

Gen 1:26-27; Romans 1:1; Galatians 4:1-20; 1John 2:12-14

Here’s my presupposition: I believe the highest calling in the body of Christ for a woman is to become a mother in the faith and the highest calling for a man is to become a father in the faith. We all have equal access to those callings.
“Then God said, ‘Let us make [humankind] in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.’ So God created [humankind] in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” (Gen 1:26-27, NIV)
Two points:
  1. All people (males and females) are made in the image of God. As such, there is a confluence of majesty and depravity in every human soul. (I believe in total depravity.) This confluence creates a mystery that philosophers and theologians have been debating about for thousands of years…
  2. The second point is a bit of a side-point, but certainly relevant on Mother’s Day: Notice the order of creation… In the opening verses of Gen 1 we find…The basic elements created first – the sky, land, and sea. Then the sun, moon, and stars are created. This is followed by living creatures: First are fish and birds, and then land animals. Then God creates the next level: Adam – Here’s the question: Is God working in order of sophistication and complexity? If that is true then the woman is the crowning achievement of God’s sophisticated creation in Genesis – and the female is the apex of God’s creative process!!
As we build our case for the high calling of spiritual mother and father-hood, consider...
“Paul, a servant of Christ Jesus, called to be an apostle and set apart for the gospel of God…” (Rom 1:1, NIV)
This verse identifies 3 distinctive callings that Paul speaks to:
  1. A general calling – “a [bond] servant of Christ Jesus.” We ALL share that calling…
  2. A special calling – Paul was “called to be an apostle.”
  3. A specific calling – “set apart for the gospel [good news] of God.”
2 main points answering the question: What is a spiritual mother or spiritual father?
  1. Someone who allows Jesus to rewrite the story of his or her life. (Age and education don’t matter.)
  2. Someone who helps others rewrite the story of their lives. (This often begins through listening…)
This IS the process of discipleship…The apostle Paul, for example, was literally knocked off his horse and converted in an instant. Before that his life had a very different trajectory – In Phil 3:5-6 Paul announces his pedigree:
“Circumcised on the eighth day, of the people of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew of Hebrews; in regard to the law, a Pharisee; as for zeal, persecuting the church; as for legalistic righteousness, faultless.”
He was well-bred, well educated, well-connected, he was zealous, and he was committed...

Acts 9 – Paul’s conversion – he was knocked to the ground he asked a very important question (v.6)...
“Who are you Lord?”
He was no longer his own…
2 very two very important questions…
  1. Are you allowing Jesus to rewrite the story of your life?
  2. Do you want to help others rewrite the story of their lives?
What does it mean to allow Jesus to rewrite the story of your life?

1. Understand that you are created in the image of God
– we are that mixture of majesty and depravity. (The Psalms tells us that God’s glory rests on every human being.) At birth, and through our early years, we were all handed a life script – or story -- for our lives. For some of us that script included significant pain, abuse, and dysfunction.

2. Step in to unknown territory and invite Jesus Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit, to rewrite the script of our lives
. (This can be terrifying!) At some point we come to realize that our life script has been stained with sin – we can turn our lives over to a God who is alive and available for an intimate relationship with us -- as individuals and as a community of believers. Many of us have false, internalized beliefs – that, for the most part, come out of our families of origin… We’ve believe and internalized statements like:
  • I don’t have a right to assert God-infused majestic power
  • I’m defective
  • I was a mistake
  • I am a burden
  • I am unlovable
  • I don’t belong
  • I can’t make mistakes
  • I don’t have a right to feel
  • I’m a sex object
  • We are performance oriented – we have to behave a certain way in order to gain any measure of approval in our lives
Researchers have said that there is the equivalent of millions of miles of film footage about who we are - by the time you we’re 15 years old! We got handed a script in life and, deep inside, we may still believe it. Jesus seeks to rewrite the stories of our lives – and the Bible gives us a new script. Discipleship is allowing God to rewrite the story, or script, of our lives. The 6 principles in the Emotionally Healthy Church are VERY helpful for rewriting the script of our lives
  • Looking beneath the surface – What is going on in our interior that is blocking healthy change and growth?
  • Breaking the power of the past – Our past affects our present
  • Living in brokenness and vulnerability – Owning our own issues and becoming appropriately self-disclosing...
  • Receiving the gift of limits – Rejoicing in our limits requires faith in God’s goodness.
  • Embracing grief and loss – EHC says this is the only way to effectively develop godly compassion. Grief and joy are connected - if we will grieve our losses, joy will be more accessible.
  • Making incarnation our model for living well – to learn to love well is to follow the 3 dynamics of Jesus: enter another’s world, hold on to ourselves, and then live in the tension of the 2 worlds.
3. Look for opportunities to serve and to help other people rewrite the scripts, or stories, of their lives.

This is where we look at our next passage of scripture in Gal 4:19 -
“My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you…”
Paul uses a matriarchal mothering image here to convey his commitment to love and serve people – to come alongside and help them rewrite the script of their lives…

Here's a question and answer it with one final passage. What is the distinguishing characteristic of a spiritual mother or father?

In 1 John 2:12-14 John identifies 3 basic stages to development: children, young men (or women), and fathers (and mothers) in the faith:
12I am writing to you, little children, because your sins have been forgiven you for His name's sake.
13I am writing to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning I am writing to you, young men, because you have overcome the evil one I have written to you, children, because you know the Father.
14I have written to you, fathers, because you know Him who has been from the beginning I have written to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one.
The distinguishing characteristic of a mother or a father in the faith is that they know Him (Jesus Christ) – who has been from the beginning.

Our society is in desperate need of spiritual mothers and fathers to mentor and nurture others in an authentic Christian spiritually in order to serve the purpose of God in this generation and to do the works of Jesus wherever they work and live.

Thursday, May 07, 2009

5 QUALITIES OF MOTHERING THAT ARE ALSO CHARACTER QUALITIES OF GOD

1. Security
  • (God says) "Like babies you will be nursed and held in my arms. You will be bounced on my knees. I will comfort you as a mother comforts her child." Isaiah 66:12c,13b (NCV)
  • The door slams as the kids get home from school and what's the first thing that you hear? "Mom? Mom? Are you here?" Now the kids wouldn't say, "I need to know that your here for my security," but that's what's going on. Moms mean security.
Look at how God is wanting to provide security for those who will come to Christ:
  • (Jesus says) "But some will come to me - those the Father has given me - and I will never, never reject them. For I have come here from heaven to do the will of God who sent me, not to have my own way." Jn. 6:37,38 (TLB)
2. Healing
(Paul says) "But we proved to be gentle among you, as a nursing mother tenderly cares for her own children." 1 Thess 2:7 (NAS)
  • In Matt. chap. 15 we see a gentile woman bring her sick daughter to Jesus to be healed...she showed great resolve and determination...
  • "'Woman,' Jesus told her, 'your faith is large (or great), and your request is granted.' And her daughter was healed right then." Mat. 15:28 (TLB)
  • One way or another, mothers bring healing to the family. One of my favorite images of Linda through the years is the way she is so often hugging our children and wiping the tears away after some disappointment or a lost battle with the pavement. There's nothing like a mom wrapping her arms around you and telling you that everything's going to get better.
  • Mother not only bring security and healing to the family, but they also bring...
3. Sacrifice
  • Mothers almost always have the middle name of sacrifice. I remember catching a few minutes of a TV special last year that was paying homage to mothers. There were short takes of celebrities honoring their moms. Arsenio Hall told of the many times his mother prepared him dinner and told him that she wasn't hungry. He said that it wasn't until later in life that he realized that his mother had given him the only food they had. It seems that mothers are always giving; pouring their lives into their children.
  • "And [Hannah] made this vow: 'O Lord of heaven, if you look down upon my sorrow and answer my prayer and give me a son, then I will give him back to you, and he'll be yours for his entire lifetime..." 1 Sam. 1:11 (TLB)
  • "For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son so that anyone who believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." Jn. 3:16 (TLB)
4. Training
  • The 4th character quality of mothers that are also found in God is training. Mothers patiently train their children. I'm amazed to watch Linda helping the kids with multiplication tables, fractions, grammar, cooking, or cleaning - she is so patient, so even in her love and training.
  • "Can't you hear the voice of wisdom? She is standing at the city gates and at every fork in the road, and at the door of every house. Listen to what she says!" Pro. 8:1-4 (TLB
  • (God is) "like an eagle that stirs up its nest and hovers over its young, that spreads its wings to catch them and carries them on its (wings or) pinions." Deut. 32:11 (NIV
  • The 5th and final quality of mothering that is also a character quality of God is...
5. Faith (a seemingly unwavering faith in the child)
  • One writer has said, "The mother love is like God's love; He loves us not because we are lovable, but because it is His nature to love, and because we are His children."
  • (Jesus says) "O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings..." Matthew 23:37 (NIV)
  • Mothers seem to carry an unwavering faith in their children. I have a book in my library by a man who dedicates the book to his mother and this is what he said: To Mother who, through the hard years, smiled and stood fast while others smiled and turned away. Mothers almost always believe the best, no matter what.
  • "Love believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Cor. 13
These are motherly qualities women have because they were created in the image of God. You can be a biological mother without Jesus; but you cannot be a channel of the highest blessings of this world without Jesus. HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MOMS!!!

Monday, May 04, 2009

Our Father in Heaven – Matthew 6:9b

With the Lord’s Prayer, in Mat 6 and Luke 11, Jesus teaches a universal declaration that a new community of hope and reconciliation is forming. This prayer is curiously relevant to all people in every culture throughout history – in all circumstances and in every season of life. It is a work of both literary and sacred genius.

It would be a betrayal to pray “My Father,” for the prayer of Jesus is not only a declaration of a heavenly parent, but initiates a new perspective of family intent on forsaking the land of “ME” and entering a promised land of “WE.” In this land of promise the God of the universes has reached down to us with an invitation to know and be known.

Prologue -- Matthew 6:5-8

5"And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. 6But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. 7And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. 8Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.
1. Pray Sincerely: (v.5) Don’t be as the hypocrites who desired to only appear sincere (they were posers).

2. Pray Secretly
  • (v.6) Find a quiet, alone place to regularly connect with God.
  • (v.7) Don’t fall into the trap of meaningless repetition. This is where we build the quiet center…and learn how to be quiet before God, cultivating the ear of our hearts where we learn how to hear the voice of God calling us his beloved.
  • (v.8) God knows our needs before we ask. God’s ready to give us good gifts, God just enjoys – and seeks those moments of closeness.
  • Brennan Manning, author of the The Ragamuffin Gospel, says that prayer is “holy loitering.”
  • Contemplative spirituality is learning how to linger in the text of Scripture for the purpose of transformation and not just information. Asking how does this text comfort, encourage, &/or challenge me?
  • Thomas Aquinas said that contemplation is the simple enjoyment of the truth.
  • Christian meditation: The act of turning our knowledge about God into knowledge of God? (JI Packer)
  • One author said that prayer is disrobing our souls before God – this is who I really am…
3. Pray Specifically - The Lord’s Prayer (Matt. 6:9-13)
  • Vs 9-10 are prayer for the establishment of God’s purposes on a cosmic scale
  • Vs. 11-15 are prayer for the personal (corporate) needs of current and future disciples.
9"This, then, is how you should pray: " 'Our Father in heaven" (“in heaven” does not signify a zip code, but a vantage point.)
The Father Wound
1. Many of us have less than perfect relationships with our earthly fathers and many people have great difficulty transitioning to viewing God as a good and loving father.
2. Regardless of parental devotion, no parent can fulfill all of the child's wants, needs, or desires.
3. While these wounds can be inflicted with intent, many are unintentional yet still affect the child throughout life.
4. Children's first impressions about men come from their early experiences with their father – or the lack thereof.

5. The Father/Daughter -- The Father-Daughter relationship forms the daughter's opinions of what men are -- or should be, how they should act, especially towards her, and how she should be with them. The father's behavior towards women shapes the way she learns to relate to men. If the father withdrew his affection at the time she entered puberty, the wound only goes deeper. Did your father model how to give and receive affection and tenderness while demonstrating the proper use of strength and power? Part of the father's responsibility is to lovingly prepare his daughter for the major shifts that take place as she moves from child to adolescent to young woman and beyond. Unfortunately, many father's, themselves, had trouble adjusting and many others just weren't available to teach her to venture out from the protected realm of the home to deal with each new phase and its physical and social adjustments.

3. The Father/Son -- This relationship forms the son's opinions of how he is supposed to act and how he should treat women. Too often, however, the father wasn't around to present a healthy model for his son. Today, men have had to face the confusing challenge of learning to balance power with sensitivity, strength with feeling, and mind with heart all on their own.

Andrew Comiskey, in his book on sexual and relational healing entitled Strength in Weakness writes, “Though the Father intended for us to be roused and sharpened by our fathers, we find more often than not that our fathers were silent and distant, more shadow than substance in our lives.” This kind of a “shadow” presence is not what our heavenly Father intended for our relationships with our earthly fathers.
Jack Balswick, in his book Men at the Crossroads writes, “Tragically, many young men are growing up without a father who will affirm their leap into manhood…Often the voices they do hear are distortions of true manhood.” Because so many boys do not have a father affirming their “leap into manhood,” that transition is often filled with feelings of fear, anger and frustration, instead of confidence and security. Lonely and discouraged, boys become isolated and alienated men. In this isolated state, men continue to desire closeness and connection, but they often have no concept of how to achieve it. It is because of this quandary that many men seek out sexual fantasy in an attempt to find some sense of intimacy. Many men feel a void in their lives, often created by the wounds of the past, and some men attempt to fill that void with illicit sexuality. Men’s desire for intimacy and connection is real, powerful, and appropriate. But when men try to satisfy that desire in the form of sexual fantasies and acts, they find merely approximations or shadows of true relationship and connection.
Luke 15:11-31 - The Parable of the Prodigal Sons confronts our false assumptions about what pleases God.

Healing the Father Wound
1. Surrender to the Father’s initiating love.
  • The father moves toward both sons… in order to express his love and bring them in.
  • It’s not repentance that causes the father’s love – but the reverse. It’s surrendering to the father’s love that brings about repentance.
2. Refuse to be emotionally passive. (This was primarily the sin of the older brother, but the traveling prodigal was willing to resign himself to this.)
  • Emotional Passivity -- Repressed, self-imposed oppression of emotions based on an unmet longing for acceptance – usually from our fathers. This repression, or self-imposed oppression, generates anger that if allowed to turn inward will eventually express itself as either chronic depression, or passive-aggressive behavior.
  • Awakening the passive soul begins with confessing the sin of deadening our soul and making conscious choices to (go ahead and) feel the sadness, the grief, the sorrow -- and ultimately the joy. (We have learned some of the principles of healthy grief and loss from EHC)
  1. Sadness opens the heart to what was meant to be and is not.
  2. Grief opens the heart to what was not meant to be and is.
  3. Sorrow breaks the heart as it exposes the damage we've done to others as a result of our unwillingness to wildly pursue God’s grace and truth.
3. Refuse to mistrust.
  • Reengages the God given desire to be concerned about the temporal and eternal destiny of those who have harmed us. This transfers trust to God and releases us to care, to be kind, and to authentically comfort others.
  • It is not being gullible or stupid - "be wise as serpents and harmless as doves" (Mat. 10:16).
  • To care is to use all that we are for the good of others while not walling off the deep parts of our soul.
  • The process towards deep caring begins with admitting there is sadness.
  • Grief admits there are scars that can be removed only in heaven.
  • Godly sorrow begins to develop when we begin to see that our demand for God to prove He cares is a mockery of the Cross (which sufficient proof of His trustworthiness).
4. Refuse to deny passion.
  • Passion can be defined as the deep response of the soul to life: the freedom to rejoice and the freedom to weep.
  • A refusal to deny, or despise, passion embraces both pain and pleasure.
  • A fear of passion makes it nearly impossible to be fully present with other people.
  • It's refusing to flee back into the numbing - whatever that is
  • It is admitting that while I may be a mess, I AM ALIVE!

Thursday, April 30, 2009

What Is Denial?

Denial has been defined as “a false system of beliefs that are not based on reality” and “a self-protecting behavior that keeps us from honestly facing the truth.”

As kids we all learned various coping skills. They came in handy when we didn’t get the attention we wanted from our parents and others or to block our pain and our fears. For a time these coping systems worked. But as the years progressed they can confuse and cloud our view of the truth of our lives. If we retained our childish methods of coping, our perceptions of reality became increasingly more unrealistic and distorted. Our coping skills could have grown into denial, and many of our relationships may have ended up broken or less fulfilling than they could have been.

Did you ever deny that your parents had problems? Did you ever deny that you had problems? The truth is, most of us can all answer "yes" to these questions. For some of us, that denial turned to shame and guilt.

Denial is the “Pink Elephant” sitting in the middle of the living room. They are the things no one in the family talks about or acknowledges. Do any of the following comments sound familiar to you?

• “Can’t we stop talking about it? Talking only makes it worse.”
• “If we don’t talk about it, maybe it will go away.”
• “Let’s pretend that it didn’t really happen.”
• “If I tell her that it hurts me when she says that, I’m afraid she will leave me.”
• “He really doesn’t drink that much.”
• “It really doesn’t hurt when he does that; I’m fine!”
• “She drinks more than I do.”
• “He's been married three times; I’ve only been married twice.”
• “I eat because you make me so mad!”
• “If you didn’t nag me all the time, I wouldn’t ...”
• “Look honey, I have a tough job; I work hard. I need a few drinks to relax. It doesn’t mean that I have a problem.”

These are phases of DENIAL.
To grow and mature we must first face and admit our denial.
“You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there!” (Jeremiah 6:14, TLB)
Effects of Denial
  • Disables our feelings
  • Energy lost
  • Negates growth
  • Isolates us from God
  • Alienates us from our relationships
  • Lengthens the pain
The D in denial stands for DISABLES our feelings.
Hiding our feelings, living in denial, freezes our emotions and binds us. Understanding and feeling our feelings is where we find freedom.
tells us:
“They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of destructive habits—for a man is a slave of anything that has conquered him.” (2 Peter 2:19, GNB)
The basic test of freedom is not what we're free to do, it’s what we're free not to do! We find freedom to feel our true feelings when we find Jesus and step out of denial.

The E stands for ENERGY lost.
A major side-effect of denial is anxiety. Anxiety causes us to waste precious energy dealing with past hurts and failures and the fear of the future. It is only in the present that positive change can occur. Worrying about the past and dreading the future makes us unable to live and enjoy God’s plans for us in the present.
We let our fears and our worries paralyze us, but the only lasting way we can be free from them is by giving them to God.
“He frees the prisoners,... he lifts the burdens from those bent down beneath their loads.” (Psalm 146:7, TLB)
If we will transfer the energy required to maintain our denial into learning God’s truth, a healthy love for others and ourselves will occur. As we depend more and more on Jesus Christ we will see the light of truth and reality.

The N stands for NEGATES growth.
We are as sick as our secrets and we cannot grow until we are ready to step out of our denial into the truth. God is waiting to take our hand and bring us out.
“They cried to the Lord in their troubles, and he rescued them! He led them from the darkness and shadow of death and snapped their chains” (Psalm 107:13–14, TLB).
Eventually we come to understand that God never wastes a hurt; God will never waste our darkness. But God can’t use it unless we step out of denial into the light of His truth.

The I stands for ISOLATES us from God.
Adam and Eve are a great example of how secrets and denial separate us from true fellowship with God. After they sinned, their secret separated them from God. Genesis 3:7 tells us that Adam and Eve hid from God because they felt naked and ashamed. Adam tried to rationalize. He said to God,
“The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree” (Genesis 3:12).
First he tried to blame God, saying, “The woman you put here with me ...” Then he tried to blame it on Eve: “She gave me some fruit.” God’s light shines on the truth. Our denial keeps us in the dark.
“God is light, in him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin” (1 John 1:5–7)
The A stands for ALIENATES us from our relationships.
Denial tells us we are getting away with it. We think no one knows, but they do. But while denial may shield us from the hurt, it also keeps us from helping ourselves or the people we love the most. We don’t dare reveal our true selves to others for fear of what they will think or say if they knew the real us. We must protect ourselves—our secrets—at any cost. So we isolate ourselves and thereby minimize the risk of exposure and possible rejection from others. But at what price? The eventual loss of all our important relationships.

What’s the answer?
“Stop lying to each other; tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves.” (Ephesians 4:25, LB)
It is always better to tell the ugly truth rather than a beautiful lie.

Finally, the L stands for LENGTHENS the pain. We have the false belief that denial protects us from our pain. In reality, denial allows our pain to fester and grow and to turn into shame and guilt. Denial extends our hurt and multiplies our problems.

Truth, like surgery, may hurt for a while -- but it cures.
“I will give you back your health again and heal your wounds.” (Jeremiah 30:17, TLB)

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Addiction - A Problem for All People

I came across this on my computer and thought it was excellent...

All people are addicted to something, maintains author Gerald May. "All of us suffer from addiction," May writes in his book Addiction and Grace. "The psychological, neurological and spiritual dynamics of full-fledged addiction are actively at work within every human being," he continues. "We are all addicts in every sense of the word.

Moreover, our addictions are our own worst enemies. They enslave us with chains of our own making." While many people do not have a problem with alcohol, drugs, tobacco or gambling, they may have problems with anger, coffee, computers, or golf -- and the list goes on, May insists. And while some addictions are more physically and emotionally destructive than others, all addictions are spiritually destructive, he says.

That is because all addictions are spiritual in nature, May notes. "I am convinced that all human beings have an inborn desire for God," writes May, director for Research and Program Development at the Shalem Institute in Washington. "Whether we are consciously religious or not, this desire is our deepest longing and our most precious treasure. It gives us meaning. ...

The yearning is the essence of the human spirit; it is the origin of our highest hopes and most noble dreams." Unfortunately, that inborn desire can never be filled in this life, and that places humans at dis-ease.

Many people respond by repressing or misidentifying the longing, May says, but the greatest danger is addiction - when something other than God becomes the focus of attention, energy and desire.

"(Addictions) become preoccupations and obsessions; they come to rule our lives ... ," May says. "(That is) why addiction is the most powerful psychic enemy of humanity's desire for God."
The Bible calls it idolatry, May says.
"Addiction makes idolaters of us all, because it forces us to worship these objects of attachment, thereby preventing us from truly, freely loving God and one another."
"Addiction is when you have no choice," May said in an interview. "You feel compelled. It doesn't
matter what we're talking about when it's a matter of compulsion rather than freedom.

"And the spiritual importance of that is that we're meant to be free. ... So anything that hinders that freedom is a problem." It is spirituality gone awry.

"Saint Augustine once said that God is always trying to give good things to us, but our hands are too full to receive them," May writes. "If our hands are full, they are full of things to which we are addicted. And not only our hands, but also our hearts, minds and attention are clogged with addiction.
"Our addictions fill up spaces within us, spaces where grace might flow."
May acknowledges that most people would rather see addiction as a disease or affliction that other people have. But he is adamant in his view that addiction is something no one escapes. Indeed, humans are faced with the prospect of struggling with addictions throughout their lives, May says.
There is only one answer - the grace of God, May says.
"Grace is the most powerful force in the universe," May writes. "It can transcend ... addiction and every other internal or external power that seeks to oppress the freedom of the human heart. Grace is where our hope lies."

Some people see dealing with addictions simply as a matter of willpower, May says. Unfortunately, many of these simply fall into the trap of trading a more destructive addiction for a less destructive one. They are reforming behavior, rather than transforming their desires, May says. May calls such transformation "deliverance," which, he says, does not remove one's addiction but enables a person to make a change in behavior. May does not deny deliverance has a miraculous quality. "(But) the real miracle was that avoidance became possible; the person could actually do it. Deliverance does not remove a person's responsibility; it does empower the person to exercise responsibility simply, gently and effectively." How deliverance comes is a matter of mystery, May says. People cannot create such a moment of grace and enabling - but they can pray and be open and ready to respond to God.

They can choose to live openly before God, to admit weaknesses and present themselves to God just as they are, May says. They can choose to live responsibly and to seek and follow God's guidance. Enabled by God, they can choose to stop their addictive behavior, he says - to say "no" and keep saying "no" to temptation. One joins his or her will with divine will and allows God's grace to enable a change. "Here, finally, is the proper place of willpower in the spiritual life," May notes. "We bring our intention, our effort, our strength and all else that we can muster to the cause of love."

People can expect to fail and give in to temptation from time to time, but grace is always present, May says. Some people shy away from that idea, May notes. They look for a God who will come in and deliver them once and for all from addictions and the hardships of life. It does not work that way, May insists. Instead, the call of God is to focus on God as the source of true security and to risk that God is trustworthy. Answering that call takes honesty, May points out. "We have unconsciously been saying no to God in countless areas of our lives all along.
Honesty simply asks if we are willing to acknowledge some of this.
Can we stop hiding our secret desires and start claiming them openly before God, who already knows about them anyway? ...

"Honesty before God requires the most fundamental risk of faith we can take: the risk that God is good, that God does love us unconditionally. It is in taking this risk that we rediscover our dignity. To bring the truth of ourselves, just as we are, to God, just as God is, is the most dignified thing we can do in this life."

Sunday, April 26, 2009

HOW TO HEAR THE VOICE OF GOD (IS 30:1-26)

Focus: v. 21 “Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’"

3 PARTS: How NOT to Hear; How TO Hear; and the Benefits of Those Who CAN Hear

1. How NOT to hear (Is 30:1-14):

Woe to the Obstinate Nation
1 "Woe to the obstinate children," declares the LORD, "to those who carry out plans that are not mine, forming an alliance, but not by my Spirit, heaping sin upon sin;
2 who go down to Egypt [place of bondage -- and where we tend to return to medicate] without consulting me; who look for help to Pharaoh's protection, to Egypt's shade for refuge.
3 But Pharaoh's protection will be to your shame, Egypt's shade will bring you disgrace.
9 These are rebellious people, deceitful children, children unwilling to listen to the LORD's instruction.
10 They say to the seers, "See no more visions!" and to the prophets, "Give us no more visions of what is right! Tell us pleasant things, prophesy illusions.

2. How TO Hear:

v15: For thus the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel, has said,
‘In repentance and rest you will be saved,
In quietness and trust is your strength.’
But you were not willing,

• It seems to say that salvation is the result of repentance and rest and that inner strength, or maturity, comes from quietness and trust / confidence.
• Following is an attempt to unpack those 4 words: repentance, rest, quietness, and confidence.

A. Repentance -- Shuwbah (shü·bä') – Literally means to return. The metaphorical meaning is conversion.
  • Repentance is not only a turning away from sin, but also a turning to God.
  • In his book The Wounded Heart, Dr. Dan Allender records some penetrating yet refreshing definitions:
  • Repentance is an about-face movement from denial and rebellion to truth and surrender.
  • Repentance involves the response of humble hunger, bold movement, and wild celebration when faced with the reality of our fallen state and the grace of God.
  • It is a shift in perspective as to where life is found.
  • It is melting into the warm arms of God, received when it would be so understandable to be spurned."
B. Rest – Nachath (nakh'·ath) – Literally: a letting down, or letting go. It is a Hebraic reference to death.
  • Job 17:16 “resting together in the dust.”
  • The invitation to become an active, intentional follower of Christ is to engage an ongoing cycle of death and resurrection.
  • That cycle of death and resurrection continues after our initial salvation
  • Too understand this is an important key that unlocks growth in Christ.
  • Any hope we have of living a life of integrity, wholeness, and health is dependent on dying and rising with Jesus Christ.
  • The more we are willing to die to our tenacious control of life, the more God is able to resurrect his life in us.
  • When we surrender our moral failures, our sinful choices to him, he will raise out of their ashes a brand-new start.
  • When we cry out for help in our problems, he will give us insight and direction we wouldn't have even dreamed possible.
  • And when we have challenges that are beyond us, it is Christ’s resurrection power that gives us strength and wisdom.
  • And finally, the more we give over our worry about the future---the what-ifs, the worst-case scenarios---the clearer his guidance will become for us. The secret of fullness of life is dying to our arrogant, willful self and allowing the risen Christ to express his life through us.
C. Quietness – Shaqat (shä·kat') – This word speaks to the building, or development, of an ongoing rhythm of rest. It also speaks to the absence of fear. (It is the quiet center that we will be examining in the days ahead in our Deeper Still series.)
  • Heb 4:9-10 – “There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God's rest also rests from his own work, just as God did from his.”
  • It is also about growing a quiet center in our hearts -- where we enjoy communion with God.
  • What does communion with God mean? It means that we are creating space in our lives to be with Christ…what does that mean?
  1. (Nouwen) says, “To pray is to listen…” To encounter Christ is to learn how to listen. The work of prayer – or growing intimacy with Christ -- is to create that space and to learn how to listen.
  2. What are we listening for? To pray is to listen to (or for) the One who calls you, my beloved… -- This is what Jesus heard from his Father when he came up out of the water at his baptism.
  3. To pray is to let that voice speak to the center of your being, to your guts, and let that voice resound in your whole being. Who am I? I am the beloved. That's the voice Jesus that Jesus heard throughout his life and his ministry.
  4. As a people, a community of Christ-followers, we are called to operate out of the understanding that we are beloved.
  5. The definition of obedience… (The church has made “obedience” a “religious” word, not a spiritual word.) The primary action of Christian obedience is for us to make room in our lives to hear God call us beloved.
D. Trust / Confidence – Bitchah (bit·khä') – Confidence
In the early stages of the building of the Golden Gate Bridge 23 people fell to their deaths. The contractor spent $100,000.00 on a net that was stretched underneath the structure. During the remaining construction time only 10 people fell into the net; and productivity rose by 25%. Why? Because the workers had greater confidence!
  • OLD TESTAMENT USAGE -- The basic idea has to do with firmness or solidi¬ty. The word expresses that sense of well-being and security which result from having some¬thing or someone in whom to place confi¬dence.
  • NEW TESTAMENT USAGE -- The Greek word and its derivative are used a total of 40 times and most often describe a joyful, con¬tented expectation as well as bold and effective speaking.
WHAT PRODUCES CONFIDENCE?
  1. Proverbs 14:26 - "In the fear of the Lord (seeing Him as He really is) there is strong confidence." Developing a holy respect and reverence for the Lord will produce confidence in our lives.
  2. Acts 4:13 - "Now as they observed the confidence of Peter and John, and understood that they were uneducated and untrained men, they were marveling, and began to recognize them as having been with Jesus.” Intimacy with Jesus will produce confidence in our lives.
  3. 1 Timothy 3:13 - "Those who serve . . . obtain for themselves a high standing and great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus." By serving we obtain confidence.
  4. 1 John 2:28 - "Little children, abide in Him, so when He appears, we may have confidence." The Greek definition for the word abide means to stay in a given place, state, relationship, or expectancy. I would expand on that by adding that to abide is to acknowledge our life source. Abiding in Jesus produces confidence.
Isaiah 30:18 – “Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, And therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him.”
3. The BLESSINGS accorded to those who can hear:

22And you will defile your graven images overlaid with silver, and your molten images plated with gold You will scatter them as an impure thing, and say to them, "Be gone!"

23Then He will give you rain for the seed which you will sow in the ground, and bread from the yield of the ground, and it will be rich and plenteous; on that day your livestock will graze in a roomy pasture.

24Also the oxen and the donkeys which work the ground will eat salted fodder, which has been winnowed with shovel and fork.

25On every lofty mountain and on every high hill there will be streams running with water on the day of the great slaughter, when the towers fall.

26The light of the moon will be as the light of the sun [reflective], and the light of the sun will be seven times brighter, like the light of seven days, on the day the LORD binds up the fracture of His people and heals the bruise He has inflicted.